To the Women:

You are a precious gift from God to the world.  You are creative, sensitive, compassionate, intelligent, and beautiful.  But due to life’s circumstances, some of you have lost the confidence God wants you to enjoy.  You may have been left with vague feelings that you are somehow less valuable, less worthy.  The truth is, you are very valuable – to me, to our church, to your family, and most importantly, to God!

God wants you to be bold, courageous, respected, admired, promoted, sought after, blessed, and most of all loved. Your own choices sometimes cause you to feel defeated, discontent, and in despair.  You must realize that the choices you make today will determine who you will be tomorrow.  Make sure who you are becoming is who you want to be! “Live your life in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ” (Phil. 1:27). And, in order to become what God wants you to be you must change your thoughts and attitudes and get rid of your sour, bitter mindset and replace it with an “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” attitude.  In other words, you need to change the way you think.  Train yourself to think positively.  Speak positively about yourself, your relationships, and your circumstances.  LOSE YOUR MIND!  I Cor. 2:16 says that we have the mind of Christ.  When we have the mind of Christ, our thoughts will be like His thoughts; our desires will be the same as His desires; our ways will be like His ways, our WORDS will be like His WORDS.  So go ahead and lose your mind – AND FIND THE MIND OF CHRIST.  Paul said he had learned the secret of being content. He said this right after he said that the peace of God will guard your minds and then instructed us to think on things that are true, pure, lovely, honest, right, and worthy of praise (Phil. 4:8). If the inspired word of God instructs us to do this, I believe God will give us the power to fulfill the command.  When you find yourself thinking self-defeating, negative thoughts or feeling sorry for yourself, consciously, forcefully, intentionally make yourself think on better things.  LOSE YOUR MIND AND FIND THE MIND OF CHRIST. 


A negative attitude produces negative words.  Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. No one finds it to be a pleasant experience when they have to hang around someone who is bitter, angry, negative, or complaining.  Proverbs 21:9 says it’s better to dwell in a corner of the housetop (flat, oriental roof, exposed to all kinds of weather) than with a brawling, nagging, quarrelsome, faultfinding woman in a large house.  Pray for God to bless you with a gentle, kind, and content attitude.

As Christian women, we need to be slow to speak (think before you speak) and careful about the words we allow to come out of our mouths.  Ephesians 4:29 says no rotten talk should come from your mouth, but only what is good.  We will give account one day for every idle word that we have spoken.  Ephesians tells us that “all bitterness, anger and wrath, insult and slander must be removed from you.  Death and life are in the power of the tongue.  Words cause death.  People die a little inside every time they are belittled, criticized, unappreciated, or humiliated – all because of something said.  Your tongue can be a weapon of mass destruction.  Your tongue can be the death of your marriage, your family, your friendships, your church, your career, your hopes, your reputation.

But words can also give life.  People live because of something said.  People can thrive because of an encouraging word.  People can be happy for days because of a sincere compliment or a kind word spoken at just the right moment.  A gentle tongue can be a “tree of life.”  Your tongue can reconcile and make peace.  Your tongue can make your marriage sweet, your family strong, and your church healthy.  Your tongue can give hope to those in despair and advance understanding where misunderstanding may reign.  Be kind, compassionate, forgiving, and treat others the way you want them to treat you.  Speak life because your life depends on it.

Proverbs 12:18 says that thoughtless words cut like a sword.  But the tongue of wise people brings healing.  So, what will come out of your mouth today?  A sword thrust (thoughtless words) or healing?  It all depends on what’s filling your heart.  What are you putting in?  Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. 

·         A critical heart produces a critical tongue.
·         A self-righteous heart produces a judgmental tongue.
·         A bitter heart produces a sharp, sarcastic, cruel, unkind tongue.
·         An ungrateful heart produces a grumbling tongue. 

BUT . . .
·         A loving heart produces a gracious tongue
·         A faithful heart produces a truthful tongue
·         A peaceful heart produces a reconciling tongue
·         A trusting heart produces an encouraging tongue

So, fill your heart with grace by soaking in the Bible.  And be very careful taking in the words of death from the radio, TV, social media, magazines, books, and face-to-face relationships.  Pray, “Lord, set a guard over my mouth and keep watch over my lips.”  And if you recognize that “speaking life” is a struggle for you, take control!  Resolve to do better. When you find yourself thrusting a sword instead of speaking gently, remember that becoming conscious of wrong doing is the first step towards correcting it.  Don’t give up.  Start over with a greater determination to do better.  Get up tomorrow morning and say, “Today my mouth is going to be a fountain of life!”  Be gentle, slow to speak.  Encourage more than you criticize and critique.  Seek opportunity to speak kind, tender words.  Say something affectionate to a loved one at an unexpected time.  Make it a goal to only speak words that are good for building others up.  Be a person whose mouth is full of life.  And remember that losing your mind is a good thing – because you are replacing it with the mind of Christ.  So, I encourage you today to GO AHEAD AND LOSE YOUR MIND!